Why am I writing this?
I wanted to let you all know a bit more about who I am, where I come from and why my hobby is pretty organisation. I apologise in advance for the lengthy explanation but there’s something really important I’d like to talk about.
My name is Iryna Federico and I was born in Ukraine. My family and I moved to Australia when I was a teenager and it was just mum, dad, my brother and I and at the time. None of us knew a word of English.
I now also have twin sisters who were already born in Australia. Luckily by then we all learnt the language 😛
My brother and I started school in Australia only knowing how to speak Ukrainian (problem). I obviously struggled to make friends for a while as being able to communicate to people plays a big part in the bonding process. Even when I could speak English, I was still the ‘weird foreign kid’ with ‘the weird foreign clothes’ that no one wanted to hang out with. I became used to it and none of it particularly fazed me since I had a super fun family to come home to.
We moved to Adelaide when I was in year 10. At the time, I was undergoing orthodontic work which involved expanding the top jaw of my mouth. I started my first day of year 10 with a massive gap in my front two teeth. Miraculously, the people of Adelaide gave me a chance and I am lucky enough to call some of those amazing people my best friends today.
Since moving to Australia, we have lived in Melbourne, Sydney and now little ol’ Adelaide and I have to say, this city is by far my favourite. Not only is it where I met my amazing husband, but it is also where we build our first home together.
We originally met whilst studying the same degree at uni. Coincidentally, we both now work in similar fields but for different companies; my husband works in Marketing and Business Development for a design engineering company and I work in Marketing and Business Development for an aerospace engineering company. We both love our jobs and have made substantial efforts to grow our professional careers to reach our life goals.
The purpose of this little extended ‘about me’ was to let you get to know me a bit more, talk about online bullying and to address some of the comments I’ve been receiving online. I had a few responses from people saying I deserve everything I get because I put something out on the internet for the world to see.
Ever since my pantry pictures went ‘viral’, I have well and truly had my eyes opened about the world of online bullying.
I am a very resilient person and I well and truly don’t take the things said to heart, but I do strive to correct any assumptions. What I am extremely worried about though, is the kind of world our children are growing up in and will grow up in, if we as grown adults, are taking the time out of our day to make such ridiculous comments over a food cupboard.
I started blogging as a way of connecting with like-minded people and to be inspired to take on more projects. It was a way for me to share my ideas and learn from others who have done the same. It was NOT to sit online and read everyone’s presumptions and unsolicited ‘opinions’ about something that does not affect them. Believe it or not, that is not actually what the internet is for, and 99% of those that used that as an excuse, are in fact bullies. Just because you’re stating an ‘opinion’ does not automatically make it necessary or relevant.
The comments below really annoyed me:
“What a millennial snowflake, this is obviously all daddy’s money letting barbie play shop”
Before purchasing our investment property and subsequently our first home, my husband worked three jobs and I worked two. We solidly saved and sacrificed going out, eating out or travelling as much as others and although we’re both blessed with very supportive families, everything we now own is a direct result of our own work. We strongly believe in doing things in moderation and although we made sacrifices we are happy with our choice, as others should be with theirs.
“Bet her husband starves to death”
Please get in this century. My husband cooks and cleans just as much as I do. If he was hungry and god-forbid I didn’t answer his bell ring, he can make his own meal.
“What a waste of time and money. I have so many better things to do than care about what my pantry looks like. Get a life, loser”
Then by all means, go out and do them. At no point am I telling people how to live or how their things should look. It is a project I started because I found it a fun hobby and how I spend my time and money does not affect anyone else’s life in the slightest. Let me assure you, your bank account is not paying for my containers nor am I using your time to paint some containers.
“I can’t wait until you have kids and they mess it all up. Not practical at all”
We’re 26. I’m not sure why so many people assume we want children, will have children or should already have children. On average, three of the biggest life costs are a wedding, a home, and children. Personally, we saw no logic in doing all three at the same time and sending our bank account into meltdown, so we have spread it out. We got married young so we could spend more time with each other, have the opportunity to travel child free and grow our careers so that when children do come along, we are set up.
We will enjoy how it looks and functions while we’re ‘kid free’ however when we do decide to start a family, we will adapt just like anyone else. In my previous experience, it is much easier to raise children in a household where there are already systems in place, rather than re-organise something and expect everyone to fall in line and break ten years’ worth of habits, but we will see how it all goes when the time comes.
“What an OCD moron”
Please, please, please educate yourself on what an Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is before throwing such comments around. It is not a term that should not be used colloquially or ‘as a joke’ to describe anyone who has things organised. OCD is a serious mental illness and a debilitating one at that.
If someone can get comments and bad wishes as such over a food cupboard, consider the things children growing up in a world of social media see daily which then passes on through schooling. As an adult, please set a good example. Everyone is of course entitled to their own opinion, but unless it’s constructive criticism or will bring value to anyone else’s life other than your own, don’t post it.
And don’t get me started on the female/male stereotyping, but I will do another rant about that shortly.